There comes a time in a Black woman’s life when she gets the dreaded call from a Black man that she cares about.

“I’ve just been pulled over,” says her husband, boyfriend, father, son, favorite cousin, or friend.

I got the call a few weeks ago. My partner, a Black man, was driving home one night from Meriden. His GPS had taken him through Wallingford, infamously known for its KKK community and also as a place where white police officers frequently harass Black drivers — especially men and after the sun goes down.

In the 1940s, ’50s, and ’60s, Black…


My 6th-grade yearbook picture. Courtesy of West Woods School, Hamden, Conn.

I’ll never forget the first time I experienced blatant racism. It was from the parent of one of my friends. This is the same elementary school in Connecticut that made international news, after one of its teachers cast a fifth-grader as a slave in a play about colonialism. The student was Black.

I arrived to West Woods School in Hamden, Conn. when I was 10 years old. Despite being the only Black person in my class, I loved it there. I had many friends. We celebrated birthdays together, spent time together outside of the classroom, and often had funny conversations…


By Stacy Graham-Hunt

Photo: Courtesy of the Middletown Press

I love to take my son on a new adventure on Saturdays. Two Saturdays ago, I decided to take him to Kid City, a children’s museum in Middletown. Little did I know that the city would be celebrating its lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender queer/questioning, or LGBT, community that same day.

I drove for about 40 minutes on a bright, sunny and clear day, uninterrupted by traffic, while my 21-month-old son slept peacefully in his car seat in the backseat.

When we were only 5 minutes away from the museum, the main roads were blocked off with…


Shubert Theater, New Haven, Conn. / Photo by Hearst Connecticut Media Group

Over the last few months, I’ve received many responses to a column that I wrote in March about how arts organizations needed to be more inclusive of brown and black people. Arts organizations need to stop saying they want more diverse participants in their programs, then doing the wrong outreach to get us there. They also need to make sure we are comfortable in their spaces if they want us to continue participating in their programs, and bring more people who look like us there.

I received many responses to that column, with some emailing me about their own negative…


This morning, when I dropped my 20-month-old son, Alexander, at his local day care, he cried. He also cried yesterday when I dropped him off, and the day before that, too. For the last two weeks or so, he’s been crying during his drop-off. The first few times it happened, I thought, “He’s probably just sleepy.” If he falls asleep, he’s usually cranky when he wakes up from a car ride, or so I thought.

But now, there have been times when Alexander stayed awake on the ride to day care, and he’s still unhappy when we arrive. One day…


An activist protests an Alabama bill that bans abortion under most circumstances. / Getty Images

I had an abortion when I was 19 years old. It was the summer after my sophomore year in college. My boyfriend at the time and I were having unprotected sex. I got pregnant.

That was 16 years ago. It’s scary to think of what my life would have been like if I was a pregnant teenager living in Alabama now, and was not able to terminate my pregnancy. Earlier this month, Alabama’s governor signed the “Human Life Protection Act,” banning all abortions in the state, except when “abortion is necessary in order to prevent a serious health risk” to…


Gillette Castle State Park, East Haddam, one of the Connecticut’s top tourist attraction / Hearst Connecticut Media Group

When I’ve traveled outside of Connecticut, for vacation, family reunions or college, and people learn that I’m from the Nutmeg State, they act like they’ve seen one of the seven wonders of the world. “There’s black people in Connecticut?” they’ve asked.

I thought about this recurring experience while I sat and listened to Randy Fiveash, the director of Connecticut Office of Tourism, describe his office’s marketing efforts to bring more visitors to the state during Arts Advocacy Day at the Capitol a few weeks ago.

“Who are you trying to get to Connecticut? What’s your office’s target market?” I asked…


Protesters bring signs to a rally protesting police violence against Stephanie Washington, 22. / Brian Zahn, Hearst Connecticut Media

A Yale University and Hamden, Connecticut Police Officer were responsible for shooting a 22-year-old woman.

Dear Stephanie Washington,

I broke my own rule. A few weeks ago, I wrote a column about how I refused to watch videos of people violating black bodies. However, earlier last week I found myself glued to a video of Hamden Police Officer Devin Eaton wildly firing his gun at your red Honda Civic.

I can’t imagine the level of fear you and your friend, Paul Witherspoon, felt while sitting inside the car, while bullets blazed through your doors and shattered the glass of your…


Nipsey Hussle / Associated Press

Whenever a person that we’ve cared about dies, we pity his death — as if we’re not going to have the same fate. We turn to social media as a forum to grieve, saying “Gone too soon!” “What a tragedy!” and we offer our thoughts, prayers and condolences to his family members and friends.

Grammy-nominated rapper, entrepreneur and community organizer Ermias Joseph Asghedom, better known as Nipsey Hussle, was shot and killed on Sunday in Los Angeles outside of his clothing store and on property that he owned. He was 33. …


A Connecticut woman was caught on video yelling racial slurs and spitting at two African-Americans in a grocery store.

I refuse to watch the viral video of the white lady cursing at, spitting on and calling two black people the word “n***er.”

Not just because it’s disgusting, but I don’t know what I gain by watching it. Without having seen the video, I still know more about it than I would like to.

The spitter’s name is Corinne Magoveny-Terrone. She lives in New Haven, and she’s about 40 years old and worked for Hamden public schools. There is a recording of her going on a racist tirade last week in a local grocery store. …

Stacy Graham-Hunt

Stacy Graham-Hunt is an award winning columnist who writes about race + identity. She's passionate about Black people telling their own stories. @stacyreports.

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